What's A Girl To Do?
My boss professed his love to me the other night. Well, he told me that he had a crush on me, but then went on to say a lot more. Like, how he wanted us to have a relationship and how he could visualize himself with me. Now, mind you, he is married, unhappily, as I came to know. I wasn't really sure how to respond to him. I mean, he is my boss. I didn't want to insult him, but I didn't want to give him the idea that I was interested. The crazy thing is, he said he wanted to have a relationship with me, but that he didn't want to get divorced. I actually take that as an insult. Do I look like a "mistress"? I told him that I have admiration for him and that I really do enjoy talking with him, but it doesn't go beyond that. He didn't take it well. Things are very weird at work now and I'm not sure what is going to happen. This is not the first time this has happened to me. Actually, it has happened several times in my past. I wonder if I am putting something out there. I just have a very outgoing personality and I think it can be taken the wrong way. My ex used to say, "If you are nice to a guy they think you want to sleep with them." I used to think that was absurd, but know I am starting to think that he may be right on. A part of me feels really bad for my boss. I mean, it took a lot of courage to say what he did, but he also put me in a bad position.
So what is a girl to do?
So what is a girl to do?
posted by blair at 6:04 PM
3 Comments:
A girl is to RUN from this type of weak and deceiful jerk.
Blair, you are a beautiful, smart, funny, exciting woman. I've seen your pic and read your words. There is not doubt that MANY guys have a crush on you - that's a given. This guy is not worthy of you. He's a liar and a cheat. If he's got half a brain he will know that you could have his stupid ass fired in ten seconds for sexual harrassment.
I've been in HR before and seen men break down and cry and beg us not to tell their wives after they made a proposition to a woman at the office. They are a pathetic breed.
No matter what - let him know you are not going to be one of his little playmates. I would bet money that you are not the first chick he's pulled this on - don't let yourself be put in the category with the ones that were foolish enough to listen to his sob stories about his wife. This is CLASSIC behavior for this type of guy. They feed the same lines over and over till they find a woman who will take the bait.
I'm pissed. He better stay away from you. Whatver you do, don't feel like he has the upper hand cause he's your boss, I understand how that can feel, but you are in control of this situation.
ABOVE ALL - you did nothing to "ask for this". That's bullshit and don't listen to yourself or anyone who tries to tell you otherwise...now if a nice single dude said all this stuff to you, I'd say go for it...but this guy is a loser.
Sorry to go off, I am passionate about this because I've seen lives ruined by stuff like this.
I have more to say, if you want to know my personal experience email me.
I'm with barbara. I would even consider talking to a lawyer. You have a case and a right to feel comfortable in your work place. Stand up for your rights.
~Mike
gee Bar bar a said it all, and so eloquently, put your refusal in writing, and tell him to never say anything about it again.
If he does, call his wife, she deserves to know.
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